Parent,Child,Parenting,Developmental psychology

5 Insights Every Parent Needs in 2017

January 23, 2017

Parenting often feels like a fifty sided Rubik’s cube, deceivingly simple before you really get into it, but then seemingly impossible to figure out when you’re in the thick of things. Instead of contending with multi-colored cubes, parents find themselves sorting out variables such as their own upbringing, the expectations of others and navigating through the massive amount of online parenting information. Oh, and then there’s taking into account each child and their own needs and challenges. While striving to place all of these complicated pieces of parenthood into their respective places isn’t easy, doing so is what makes an intentional and effective parent. I want to give you a few clues to jump start your parenting Rubik’s cube in 2017, by providing five different areas that will positively impact your parenting, and therefore you child’s behavior as well. These concepts are based on what we now know works best to raise emotionally healthy and well-adjusted children and are supported by some of the leading experts in the fields of parenting and behavioral science. Connection is key At the root of our humanness is connection. The need for intimate and meaningful relationships is present in our wiring at birth and through death. While the focus in parenting is often on tips and techniques to render our children into compliance, research seems to be telling us we’re overlooking our main source of influence, a strong connection with our child. Author Rebecca Eanes notes “The truth is children want to please parents they feel deeply connected to. They more readily listen, cooperate, and take advice from a connected, warm, and loving parent.” This theory has roots in developmental psychology also, relating back to the vital importance of infants establishing a healthy attachment with their caregiver. Prominent developmental psychologist Dr. Gordon Neufeld states, “When a child is in right relationship to the parent, not only is the child rendered receptive to parenting but the parent is empowered to do the job. The key therefore to effective parenting lies not in what we do but in who we are to our children.” There are always other tasks to accomplish, but none as important or as effective for creating positive change in our family as taking the time to sit down, talk, play and connect with our children. Be in tune with yourself Most parents want to be responsive to their child as opposed to reactive. In order to do so, it is vital that we as parents are in tune with not only our children but with ourselves as well. Why? So that we aren’t entering into daily interactions with our child harboring thoughts and emotions that will be a hindrance as opposed...

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