Parent drafted into adoption stops short of forming a bond

January 11, 2017

I ensure that the child's needs are met. I organize events, take him to point A or B, but have no interest in bonding or spending time with him -- no desire to form a connection, which I feel some guilt about. Deep down, I resent having been forced to take on a responsibility I never wanted in the first place. Is it good enough to provide a safe, stable home with opportunities for a child, but not to love or form a special connection with him? -- RELUCTANT PARENT IN TEXAS DEAR RELUCTANT: In your case, it appears it's going to have to be. We don't have to love everyone, but we do have to treat them well, which you have done to the best of your ability. But recognize that if you are truly unable to form an emotional bond with...

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