Adoption

Paulzines embrace adoption, finalize fourth in November

January 14, 2017

1 / 2 “We know how important it is for our children to know that they were loved from the moment they were created and that that love will continue forever.” -- Nikki and Cory Paulzine, excerpt from adoptive family profile SLAYTON — With a bustling bunch of four kids, all age 8 or under, the Paulzine home is a lively, dynamic place every day of the week. Allie, a responsible third-grader who adores her younger siblings and is admired in return, especially enjoys reading and art. At 7, Charu is fascinated with all kinds of animals and frequently dances from room to room. Exercising his infectious laugh and mischievous sense of humor, 3-year-old Jonah elicits smiles from everyone he meets; he never misses a chance to take a tractor ride or play with a car, truck or anything else on wheels or rails. And little Theo, a sparkling 10-month-old, is a laid-back fourth child who’s beginning to toddle around and doesn’t miss a thing his older sisters and brother dish out. Allie, Charu, Jonah and Theo may not resemble each other physically, but a happier collection of siblings would be difficult to find. Although the Paulzine kids may still be too young to fully appreciate it, the critical element they have in common is this: They are the cherished children of two loving, enthusiastic parents who went to great lengths to bring them home. Here’s how Cory and Nikki Paulzine have created a unique, diverse and lovely family, celebrating life and the blessing of adoption each step of the way. First comes love The Paulzines met while attending Southwest State University at Marshall. Nikki, originally from Russell, graduated from Russell-Tyler-Ruthton High School in 1998; Cory is a 2000 graduate of Fulda High School. “I know this is hard to believe, but we talked about adoption on our first date,” said Nikki, a bubbly and energetic woman who teaches fourth grade at Murray County Central. The pair became engaged six months after meeting, and they were married in November 2004. “On our wedding video, Cory said he’d like to have biological children and also adopt someday,” Nikki mentioned. “I think maybe God was preparing his heart and mine for what was coming. “Since we already had the idea of adoption in our hearts, we were able later to close the door on having biological children.” Both Nikki, a nurturing person who once dreamed of having as many as eight kids, and Cory, whom Nikki describes as selfless and hard-working, were eager to start a family. But after three fruitless years and several infertility treatments, the couple took a step back to consider their real goal: Becoming parents, whether that meant of biological or adopted children. Once the Paulzines reached that conclusion, their journey as adoptive parents was ready to begin. Then there were three Allie is a Minnesota girl, through and through. Cory and Nikki were privileged to have been in the hospital when Allie was born. “Her birth mother wanted us to have as close to a ‘normal’ hospital experience as possible, so we were the first to hold her,” shared Nikki. The Paulzines were able to take Allie home with them, but there’s always the possibility that a birth parent could change her mind. “When Allie was 11 days old, her birth mom came to see us at our home,” said Nikki. “She hadn’t signed over her parental rights yet, and we’d had the adoption of a little boy fall through just eight weeks before, so we knew we could lose her.” “But I didn’t ever want to stand in the way of a parent keeping her child. When Allie’s birth mother visited and saw where Allie would grow up, she said she felt at peace with her decision.” Nikki reflected, “We know there is pain that goes along with the choice to let your child be adopted by others, and some people might think negatively about those who choose adoption for their kids, but what we want each of our kids to know is that someone carried them nine months for a reason, that there’s love that goes into that.” The Paulzines have delighted in naming, or helping to name, each of their children. “We chose ‘Allie Grace’ because ‘Allie’ was the name...

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